I first heard the four chords as an audiobook, and then I bought the book of the fifth convention, which is basically the same, precisely that extra part @tine mentioned. We accept all these ideas because we make agreements with ourselves and with the world. We create an inner judge, and that judge judges and punishes us constantly if we do not live up to our agreements. In this trial, we create the guilty victim and we are always punished. These four agreements have reached the crossroads of my life. The first chord seems simple. But he understands a few different notions. Literally, it means “sinless.” Don Miguel Ruiz invites us to be in our sinless words, as the first way to replace our old chords with new ones. Both the words we speak to each other and the words we say to others.
When we love ourselves, we use friendly words for ourselves, instead of committing the “sin” of acting against yourself. We take responsibility for our actions, but we are not guilty. When we love others, we will not applaud or speak badly of them, but we share our common humanity. I wanted to share some simple but powerful tips from Don Miguel Ruiz`s book The Four Agreements. The fourth agreement seems very easy to do with ourselves, if we allow ourselves to stop judging and not to make assumptions about our capabilities. But there is another element of this agreement that, according to Ruiz, greatly increases our chance: always do your best not to judge you and punish you. Do things because you want to do them and do your best, not for a reward. Enjoy your life. See it now. And your best may not be the same every day when you`re sick, tired or a victim of fights. Doing your best means doing your best with the previous 3 chords, and that means you`re not always living up to your desire to always honor them. Your best will change from one moment to the next; it will be different if you are healthy, unlike the disease.
In all circumstances, do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. The four chords seem simple, don`t they? No gibberish or unusual spiritualism. However, if you look at the flesh of the book “The Four Accords”, it becomes a little more complicated, but also more interesting. Do self-help books help? This simple and provocative question is the title of an article by Ad Bergsma in the Journal of Happiness Studies. In this article, Bergsma studies the different types of psychological support books – such as the four chords – and their potential positive effects. This short and powerful book is about four chords or four habits that, if implemented, will take away the suffering of your life. By practicing them, my life has really changed. I became a friendly person. I`ve become more patient. And I`m more empathetic. “If you live without fear, if you love, there is no room for any of these emotions. If you don`t feel any of these emotions, it makes sense that you feel good.
If you`re feeling good, everything`s fine around you. If everything`s great around you, everything makes you happy.